Author: Sarah & Ian Hoffman
Category: Children's
Publisher: Albert Whitman & Company

Timely and controversial, here’s a picture book that – with sensitivity and celebration – honors “pink boys.”

Jacob loves playing dress-up, when he can be anything he wants to be. Some kids at school say he can't wear "girl" clothes, but Jacob wants to wear a dress to school. Can he convince his parents to let him wear what he wants? This heartwarming story speaks to the unique challenges faced by boys who don't identify with traditional gender roles.

Parents of a gender non-conforming son, Sarah and Ian Hoffman know all about the world of boys in dresses from the inside out. Sarah and Ian have a son who loves pink and a girl who loves yellow. Sarah Hoffman has written on the topic of gender non-conforming children for Cookie, Salon, Babble, and the San Francisco Chronicle. She speaks publicly at conferences, elementary schools, and universities about raising gender non-conforming children.


Sarah & Ian Hoffman


Authors of the spring 2014 picture book, for ages 4 to 7, illustrated by Christopher Case


Recommended by the Rights Council:

ISBN: 978-0-8075-6373-1
Price: $16.99
CopyrightDate: 2014


“Jacob, why do you always wear the girl clothes?” a schoolmate asks the gender nonconforming hero in the classroom dress-up corner. It’s a question that Jacob’s parents struggle with, as well. When the boy asks his mother to help make a “real dress” after bullies tear off a togalike outfit he’s improvised from a bath towel, Mom takes a long time to answer. “The longer she didn’t answer, the less Jacob could breathe.” But Mom and Dad believe that “There are all sorts of ways to be a boy,” and they offer support that’s low-key, emotionally authentic, and unwavering (“Well, it’s not what I would wear, but you look great,” says Dad, who has to take his own long pause before answering). The Hoffmans, whose experience as parents inspired the story—have created an ideal companion for families and educators: upbeat yet realistic, astute about peer dynamics, and blessedly lacking in a sermonizing Big Moment.


Jacob likes to play dress up with his friend Emily, but he prefers to pretend that he is a princess rather than a knight, firefighter, or policeman. The boys in his class tease him and wonder why he wears dresses. His teacher explains that “Jacob wears what he’s comfortable in. Just like you do. Not very long ago little girls couldn’t wear pants. Can you imagine that?” Jacob returns home from school to tell his mother that one of his classmates says that boys can’t wear dresses. His parents support him as he makes his own dress with his mother’s help, and she shares with him that “there are all sorts of ways to be a boy.” An author’s note explains how parents, educators, and counselors can make a difference in the lives of gender-nonconforming children. The warm cartoon illustrations convey the mood well and offer readers visual clues to the cruelty, teasing, and struggle with self-acceptance that can occur when children are different from their peers. Purchase this one to encourage discussions of gender, identity, and self-confidence.


Hopeful and affirming...